OK! confess. You are wondering what I've been smoking. How can you possibly get love by turning to your anger? Bear with me for a while, and everything will become clear. How does this make sense?
Well, it doesn't make sense based on what we women learned for centuries. We learned that anger is an ugly emotion and that expressing our anger and dissatisfaction isn't pleasing to others. So, we learned that to get love from someone; we need to be pleasant, courteous, and sweet.
When you keep functioning like this, it takes a toll on your emotional well-being. So, you may wind up struggling to know your emotions. Even if you know them, you wonder how will the world receive them.
You may feel if you express your feelings that people around you will not like you enough. And this will not allow you to show up authentically in your relationships, dating, etc.
Not being authentic is one of the most significant obstacles to happy relationships or finding a partner that will be a good match for you. You heard it everywhere, "Just be yourself." But, how can you be yourself when you have a hard time knowing your emotions.
We have a hard time being in touch with our feelings because we were raised to attune to others' needs and feelings.
Because anger is one of the most accessible emotions, it can help us get to know ourselves, learn how to express our needs, and set appropriate boundaries so that we can enjoy healthy relationships.
If you learn how to manage and process your anger, you will gain emotional intelligence and sense of competence when it comes to relationships, dating, love, and so on.
It's not socially acceptable to express anger, especially for women, but anger has very important functions in our daily life from survival to social functioning.
I hope that learning these basics about anger will help you accept acknowledge and be able to honor the part of yourself that gets angry.
Women were not encouraged to express anger. Moreover, we are raised to express only pleasant feelings. This kind of upbringing often leads to feeling disconnected from ourselves. This could be the reason why you may struggle with relationships with others too.Unlock
If you process your anger by accessing the emotions beneath, it will have a significant impact on how you feel and communicate with people.
You will feel empowered, and you will empower others. People will like your authenticity, and they will feel safe with you.
In this module, we'll dive into the 5-step-process of learning how to deal with anger. Although it took you decades to learn how to hide your emotions, you can learn how to recognize and deal with them, so you can feel more at ease.
As always, , feel free to email me with any questions you may have.
In this added module, you can learn how to utilize your feelings to communicate assertively. If you care about someone, you can utilize this style of communication. It comes from self-love instead of resentment towards the other person.